As a young woman in today’s modern world, I have observed that the topic of sex crops up constantly. It is mentioned in the lyrics of popular songs, within the plots of movies and TV shows, in everyday conversation, on the covers of magazines, etc. Why? And what is the result of this treatment?
In the Catholic faith, sex is reserved for marriage, specifically between that of a man and a woman. Any form of sex outside of this institution is a sin. Therefore, the conclusion can be made that sex is “bad” in general, right? Wrong. It is only morally correct inside the tradition of marriage because is it one of the most beautiful expressions of love on earth. It is an act where a person can experience their spouse in that individual’s entirety while sharing themselves with the other in the same manner. As a result, their love can flower into new life. God created us in His image, so what is natural is not evil, but good just as He is good.
Okay, so if sex is good then how come we have to surpress those natural tendencies outside of marriage? Why is it called “bad” otherwise? In response to these questions, I am reminded of one of my favorite quotes from C.S. Lewis’s book “The Screwtape Letters:”
“He’s vulgar, Wormwood. He has a bourgeois mind. He has filled His world full of pleasures. There are things for humans to do all day long without His minding in the least – sleeping, washing, eating, drinking, making love, playing, praying, working. Everything has to be twisted before it’s any use to us. We fight under cruel disadvantages. Nothing is naturally on our side.”
In the pursuit of love, sex has either been mistaken for this desired goal or used improperly as an instrument to achieve such. Sex without love will not produce love, but rather encourage lust and selfishness. That is why Christ instructs that sex occur only within marriage. Satan knows how beautiful sex is, he knows that in its most holy form it is an extremely strong reflection of God’s love. Therefore, because it is intended to be “of God” of course Satan wants to twist it. Instead of leading the sheep to Christ through love, He intends to divert the sheep to slaughter through selfishness and greed.
Do not be afraid of sex, but rather fight against the abuse and the distortion of sex from it’s natural form. You are God’s gorgeous creation; you have been made by and for His love. You are royalty and therefore, you deserve respect, especially from yourself. Protect not only your heart, but your entire self. Do not let anyone strip you of your title, “God’s Most Precious Child.” When struggling with these lies in modern times, pray for truth to shine into the brambles of your heart. Remember that is love that we crave not lust.